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- It's not that the guy's abusive or a monster, it's that we've got off-balance in our attempt to build more and more control into our relationship.
- by Amelia on 2005 Feb 6 - 07:50 | reply to this comment
- If Necessary, Be Prepared To End It
- The suggestions that I have read so far all seem to be very good to consider. Hopefully one or more of them will work. But it is quite possible that none of them will work and your situation may worsen. If it does, it may indicate that your relationship has turned abusive.
- Some men can't handle the power that you were willing to give your boyfriend. If, after you have tried the suggestions here, you learn that he is one who can't effectively manage that power, you may need to consider, as a last resort, separation, either temporary or permanent.
- KrosRogue
- by KrosRogue on 2005 Feb 6 - 08:03 | reply to this comment
- What's the difference?
- This is the funny thing. When I first suggested to my husband that we try having a Taken In Hand relationship, I didn't think he'd get it. I thought he'd either think it was a joke, and make fun of it, or use it as an excuse to just order me around all the time.
- But neither of these things happened. Instead, it really seems to have worked out the way it's described on this site as being supposed to work, it's made us more open and honest with each other, it's improved communication, it's eliminated stress, it's put an end to the awful rows we used to have.
- We don't have a lot of rules and regulations in our relationship, I try much harder to do things that I know will please him, and not to do things that I know annoy him, and he appreciates this and in turn doesn't lose his temper with me any more. If something bothers me I tell him, because that's what he wants. If i'm not happy with something, we can usually reach a compromise.